Yes, I am. OK seriously I’m a man and I don’t “have feelings” (Video: Unbroken https://youtu.be/26U_seo0a1g) . We are not suppose to feel? We react. We solve the problems. Bullshit! Ask me how well that has served me over the last 45 years? “Feelings” is one those topics that very few of us ever really address. And how in the hell does that relate to running 50 5K’s in all 50 states by the time I turn 50? It has everything to do with it.
When I was a boy. Wow when I was a boy?
#SideBar. Aren’t I still a boy just trapped in a man’s body. I mean seriously that’s what it feels like right. If you really ask any man what it means “to be a man” they typically look at with this expression… Huh? Then we go on a d talk about being strong, and a provider, etc. Wrong!
Ok, back to the regularly scheduled program. When I was a boy I was a hot mess. I stubbed every single toe. I broke both arms. I needed stitches so many times that I don’t even know how many of my physical scars are stitched or just bad injuries. I literally broke every bone in my face (near fatal car accident – more on that in future episodes). I think I spent more time in the emergency room as a kid than I did in school. OK maybe not that much but you get the point. My body was constantly trying to keep up with my brain and anyone who knows someone who is ADHD clearly understands, that’s just not possible. Our brains move way faster. Remember what I said in my first blog “headfirst”. That’s how I did everything. It’s how I still do everything, except now I look to see if the water is shallow or deep. Doesn’t mean I’m not gonna jump in headfirst if it’s shallow, it just means I’m gonna try to go in at a different angle and “try” not splitting my head wide open.
Sidebar: OK so I’ve got to know how many of my subscribers (all seven of them – although I think I’m up to 10 now) have actually jumped headfirst into a shallow pool and busted there face open. Guilty as charged, and trust me it was just one of many incidents growing up as a kid. You know it’s never a good thing when you walk into the ER and they say “hey Jeff good to see you again…it’s been a couple hours.”
OK where was I. Oh yeah headfirst. Actually no feelings? Men definitely have feelings. We’ve got Shame…Joy…Guilt…Love…Fear…Passion, and no not sexual passion, just Passion. OK maybe sexual sometimes. But in a healthy way. Usually. Anyways, my point is we all have feelings and whether we choose to share them or not, that is a different story for a different blog. Now wether we feel safe to share them or not is a completely different issue. So what does this have to do with running or personal growth.
Pain is a feeling, but not always a bad thing. When I’m running, when I’m training, I am constantly in pain. Obvious if you know me at all, I’m a “all-in” type, and I don’t always take the “safest path”. So let’s just say I get injured a lot. Physically and emotionally too. But there’s emotional pain when you run as well. When you miss a split or are off pace. When you push and push and push and just cannot complete a work out. And then you spiral downward into that deep dark place (shame) and start eating two and three pints of Häagen-Dazs chocolate peanut butter ice cream. Of course by now you’re so far gone that you’ve decided why not add a pound of M&Ms and some chocolate syrup. Straight from the bottle.
Sidebar. OK this is a crazy, but 100% a true story. It’s a story of a dip shit kid, really young man, who literally choked on a bottle of Hershey syrup. No bullshit. Stop breathing and had to literally give myself the Heimlich on a chair and then throw up chocolate sauce all over my new condo. My dumbass decided to have some chocolate milk, however, I decided to mix it in my mouth. What a dip shit. So, I poured the milk into my mouth and then pulled out the Hershey Syrup bottle and proceeded to squeeze. To my dismay a massive amount of chocolate syrup went to the back of my throat and I started to gag. All I could think about was “holy shit my wife is going to come home and see me dead on the floor with a bottle of Hershey syrup” and think “I really married this dip shit”. Yes, yes you did. More on that later.
The point I’m trying to make about feelings is, they are valid. They are important. They matter. They should be honored. They affect every aspect of our life. They impact our relationships, careers, and what we decide to write in our blogs. Lol. We try not to worry about what people think of us but we can’t help ourselves, we are human. We are all connected in one way or another. We all live off the energy of one another. We all feel anger, fear, pain, joy, love, passion, shame, and guilt. It’s what we choose to do with those feelings and how we react to those feelings that ultimately set us free. Much like running.
At the end of the day. It’s pretty simple when you think about it. We are human. We want to be loved, respected, supported, and encouraged. We want to love, support, and encourage those that we care about. I said this before and I’ll probably blog about it in the future, but the reality is this, karma (although not a “feeling”) is the one thing you can change. It’s been my experience, if your feeling like you were an asshole to your spouse, friend, or co-worker. Change it. Change your karma and it will bring knew “feelings” of joy and happiness. Do something nice for a complete stranger and EXPECT NOTHING in RETURN. And then just sit back and watch the magic happen. Oh yeah, feel the PAIN. Own that shit. And then work RUN thru it. You will be rewarded in ways you could only imagine.
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